kristixindie: bastianhasablog: octopusboi: ashtontaylorr: octopusboi: bastianhasablog: unicornkid: that’s not a secret. that’s just a hurtful thing to tell any transguy, and the fact that you had to post it to queersecrets shows how much you know its a wrong thing to say. we already go through dysphoria and feel like everyone, everything is against our manhood. why do people try to make us feel worse?  (via queersecrets) take this shit down queersecrets. I don’t know how to feel about this.  On the one hand I’m pissed that someone is insulting a transguy. But on the other hand, from the wording of the secret, it seems like maybe this transguy abused someone.  It says right there, “this has nothing to do with your female body.” It doesn’t matter whether you are cis or trans; abuse is just unacceptable.  I’ve heard cisguys being told they are “not real men” for abusing women.   But I don’t even know if that’s true.  I’m just confused by this secret. I see absolutely nothing wrong with this secret. The person who posted it obviously did NOT mean to tell him that he wasn’t a real man because he is trans. The person said that he wasn’t a real man because of the way that he acts. Transmen can be assholes just like cismen. This is exactly what I was thinking.  I just couldn’t put it into words. HERE IS THE THING. this is something that transmen are accutely sensitive to the issue of being a “real man.” I think it is incredibly offensive and just cruel to EVER say “you are not a real man” in this blanket way. If it is to a specific person who really wronged you, then that’s yr issue with him. Putting it in this public arena with no specific target is absolutely unacceptable. Talk about being triggering. Also the person obviously wanted it to be triggering. That’s why “you are not a real man” is so fucking big and stands out and you can hardly read the text at the bottom, which also references his “female body.” This was meant to hurt and sting and used transmen’s insecurities about their masculinity. And was posted publicly with a generic audience. So no this is not okay on any front. This should not have been posted and I am unfollowing queer secrets until they start censoring blatant transphobic and cruel “secrets”. Who moderates queer secrets? One person or a group? Maybe they could get someone who is trans to prevent these transphobic ‘secrets’ because I’ve seen about 3 or 4 of them, that’s 3 or 4 too many. I don’t know if people have seen this post by the moderator of queersecrets, explaining why they post negative secrets. I have seen transphobic secrets, secrets saying that asexuality doesn’t exist, biphobic secrets, etc. I was glad to see the moderator explain why they post these secrets. I don’t know if I agree/disagree, but I get it now.
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kristixindie:

bastianhasablog:

octopusboi:

ashtontaylorr:

octopusboi:

bastianhasablog:

unicornkid:

that’s not a secret. that’s just a hurtful thing to tell any transguy, and the fact that you had to post it to queersecrets shows how much you know its a wrong thing to say. we already go through dysphoria and feel like everyone, everything is against our manhood. why do people try to make us feel worse? 

(via queersecrets)

take this shit down queersecrets.

I don’t know how to feel about this.  On the one hand I’m pissed that someone is insulting a transguy.

But on the other hand, from the wording of the secret, it seems like maybe this transguy abused someone.  It says right there, “this has nothing to do with your female body.”

It doesn’t matter whether you are cis or trans; abuse is just unacceptable.  I’ve heard cisguys being told they are “not real men” for abusing women.  

But I don’t even know if that’s true.  I’m just confused by this secret.

I see absolutely nothing wrong with this secret. The person who posted it obviously did NOT mean to tell him that he wasn’t a real man because he is trans. The person said that he wasn’t a real man because of the way that he acts. Transmen can be assholes just like cismen.

This is exactly what I was thinking.  I just couldn’t put it into words.

HERE IS THE THING.

this is something that transmen are accutely sensitive to the issue of being a “real man.” I think it is incredibly offensive and just cruel to EVER say “you are not a real man” in this blanket way. If it is to a specific person who really wronged you, then that’s yr issue with him. Putting it in this public arena with no specific target is absolutely unacceptable. Talk about being triggering.

Also the person obviously wanted it to be triggering. That’s why “you are not a real man” is so fucking big and stands out and you can hardly read the text at the bottom, which also references his “female body.”

This was meant to hurt and sting and used transmen’s insecurities about their masculinity. And was posted publicly with a generic audience. So no this is not okay on any front.

This should not have been posted and I am unfollowing queer secrets until they start censoring blatant transphobic and cruel “secrets”.

Who moderates queer secrets? One person or a group? Maybe they could get someone who is trans to prevent these transphobic ‘secrets’ because I’ve seen about 3 or 4 of them, that’s 3 or 4 too many.

I don’t know if people have seen this post by the moderator of queersecrets, explaining why they post negative secrets. I have seen transphobic secrets, secrets saying that asexuality doesn’t exist, biphobic secrets, etc. I was glad to see the moderator explain why they post these secrets. I don’t know if I agree/disagree, but I get it now.

Source: queersecrets